What My Parents Taught Me About Relationships

This blog post is in collaboration with 13 other great bloggers who have been posting related content on each of their blogs, over the past couple of weeks. You can find out more about who has been taking part at the end of this post.

What My Parents Taught Me About Relationships

For many of us, our parents (or guardians) are our first teachers. We grow up watching them, learning from them, and seeing how they handle everyday situations. Whether that’s how they treat their partner, how they handle arguments, or how they split the household chores, we certainly learn a lot from their relationships. Both with each other but also how they interact with friends and other family members. I think it’s safe to say my parents have taught me a lot about relationships over the years. And not just romantic ones, platonic ones too.

My parents taught me – No relationship is perfect

How many times have you looked on social media seeing all these happy couples with their seemingly perfect lives? It’s true that most of us only show our best selves to the world, but in fact, no relationship is perfect from day one. It takes time and effort to make a relationship work. Even friendships. I have seen my parents fighting or arguing over things, but at the end of the day, they have always resolved them and learned from their mistakes.

To remember – Communication is crucial

A lot of the time arguments happen due to a lack of communication. So it’s important that you communicate with each other on a regular basis. It gives you the chance to share your issues and hopefully solve them before it becomes an argument. You should also make them aware of any plans you have, for example, with friends. I’ve seen my parents make plans with friends themselves and forget to tell the other! Not only can it cause ill feelings if they weren’t invited, but it can also cause tension if they’d already made other arrangements.

… and so is listening.

Yes, talking is important but so is listening to your partner, or friend, or family member. Give them time to tell you what’s on their mind. Don’t interrupt or talk over them, especially if they’re softly spoken.

My parents also taught me to – Compromise

My parents are very different people – my mum is more outgoing while my dad is more of a homebody. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with either of those personalities but, at times, they clash. So a compromise is key. Whether that’s what to cook for tea, or agreeing on how to spend the weekend. Which leads me on to…

Spend time together

My parents spend most evenings together whether that’s watching a movie, each doing their favoruite hobby, or eating a home-cooked meal together. It’s so important to spend time with your loved ones. Not only does it help you get to know them even better but it can also boost your mood after a bad day.

Have your own hobbies

While spending time together is important, you can also end up spending too much time together. My parents both taught me that having time to focus on their own hobbies gives them some much-needed space. It stops them feeling annoyed with each other, feeling like they don’t have any “me time”, and gives them a chance to do something they love, that the other might not. Like my dad with his military modeling.

Be Thoughtful

It’s all about the small things. If you know your partner has had a bad day, why not treat them to their favoruite dessert or buy a bunch of flowers? Yes, it may sound very cliche but I think it’s worth it for the smile on their face. My mum will often come back with a Cadbury Double Decker for my dad on a Thursday evening. Ironically after she’s been to her WW workshop!

Embrace Forgiveness

We’re only human. We all make mistakes. But what’s important is how we show forgiveness when things do go wrong. My parents have had their fair share of disagreements over the past 20-odd years, but one thing they’ve taught me is how to recover and move forward. The trick isn’t learning how to avoid such things, but learning how to cope with them when they happen.

Make each other laugh

When you’re smiling,
The whole world smiles with you,
When you’re laughing,
The sun comes shining through. – When You’re Smiling written by Larry Shay, Mark Fisher and Joe Goodwin.

Laughter is said, to be ‘the best medicine‘. People will often smile when they see someone smiling, or laugh when they’re laughing. It’s contagious. So it makes sense that laughter makes any relationship greater. My parents will often tease each other or crack stupid jokes; they laugh with each other (sometimes at each other), and it’s an easy way to see their happiness together. Being able to have a laugh and a joke with your partner and brighten up their day is probably one of the best things my parents have taught me about relationships. My boyfriend Aaron and I are very much the same – we also tease and joke with each other.

What have your parents (or guardians) taught you about relationships?

February 2020 Valentine’s Blog Collab Schedule

What my parents taught me about relationships - February 2020 Valentine's Blog Collab

Day 1: @perselem will be posting a romantic getaway to Sardinia, Italy. You can check out her blog here: https://www.perselem.blog, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/perselem and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/perselem

Day 2: @bamboopanda27 will be posting a Valentine’s Poem. You can check out her blog here: https://www.introvertedcreativity.com, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/bamboopanda27 and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/bamboopanda27/

Day 3: @lablogbeaute will be posting a guide on planning a romantic Valentine’s night in. You can check out her blog here: https://www.lablogbeaute.co.uk, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/lablogbeaute and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lablogbeaute
Day 4: @mybreakingviews will be posting Things to do this Valentine’s for singles, couples, and groups. You can check out her
blog here: https://www.mybreakingviews.com, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/mybreakingviews and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/mybreakingviews

Day 5: @kellyreportblog will be posting a guide to Valentines day on a budget. You can check out her blog here: https://www.kellydianereport.co.uk, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/kellyreportblog and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/kellydiane94

Day 6: @karaleecupcake will be posting a, Valentine’s dessert recipe. You can check out her blog here: https://www.talesofbelle.com, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/karaleecupcake and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/karaleecupcake

Day 7: @mrssleejones will be posting a simple gift guide for Valentine’s. You can check out her blog here: https://www.mrssleejones.com, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/mrssleejones and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/ransleejones

Day 8: @_myanxiouslife will be posting about why should we bother with valentines? You can check out her blog here: https://www.myanxiouslife.co.uk, Twitter here: https://www.twitter.com/_myanxiouslife and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/my.anxiouslife

Day 9: @_itsjustjessie_ will be posting a ‘gifts (or not)’ Valentine’s guide. You can check out her blog here: https://www.wondererandtraveler.wordpress.com, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/_itsjustjessie_ and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/jessiexmills

Day 10: @cozystylist will be posting a, Valentine’s gift guide. You can check out her blog here: https://www.cozystylist.com, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/cozystylist and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/all_things_cozy

Day 11: @themakeupbybeth will be posting a, Valentine’s make-up tutorial. You can check out her blog here: https://www.themakeupbybeth.com, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/themakeupbybeth and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/themakeupbybeth

Day 12: @_athenachristy will be posting Valentine’s inspired outfits for women. You can check out her blog here: https://www.athenachristy.wordpress.com, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/_athenachristy

Day 13: That’s me! 🙂 Thank you for taking the time to read my post and a huge thanks to Luce for setting this up.

Day 14: @luvandlifestyle will be posting a personal account of how my fiance’ first told me he loves me. You can check out her blog here: https://www.luvandlifestyle.com, Twitter here: https://twitter.com/luvandlifestyle and Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/kirstyblogs/


  • Haley Scully

    February 27, 2020 at 17:52

    All very good and true points! This was a joy to read! I agree that compromise and communication are vital to maintaining a healthy relationship. 😄

  • Lauren

    February 26, 2020 at 18:22

    Such a lovely post! It’s great you were able to learn a lot from your parents about relationships! Thank you for sharing Kim 😊

  • Karalee Shotola

    February 21, 2020 at 14:39

    These are all great things to have in a relationship & I definitely agree with communication & compromise! I also agree it’s good to have your own hobbies!

  • Lisa

    February 20, 2020 at 21:20

    Ah, this is lovely, Kim, your parents have taught you some absolutely wonderful and valuable lessons about relationships. I don’t think there’s anything I can add to these but I very much enjoyed reading them 🙂

  • Nancy

    February 17, 2020 at 23:23

    I love that this post is about the values that our parents teach us. Not all relationships are perfect and it can take some time before finding the right person. Communication and transparency is so important. At the same time, we need to think twice before acting. Thanks for sharing all of this!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

  • Abi Howard

    February 17, 2020 at 20:43

    This is such a lovely post and it’s great that your parents could teach you so much understanding about relationships!

    Abi | https://whatabigailsays.co.uk/

  • Sophie Wentworth

    February 17, 2020 at 18:25

    Such a great read and amazing lessons to learn. Especially that nothing is perfect and communication is so important. Loved reading this x


  • Britnee

    February 17, 2020 at 17:25

    I love this post. It’s great that your parents were able to teach you what love is and not.

  • Ashley

    February 16, 2020 at 20:47

    This is such a cool post! It’s good to take stock of the life lessons our parents gave to us xxx

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