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Why You Should Date Yourself (+7 Easy Ways to Do It)

July 6, 2020

When was the last time you did something nice for yourself? A week ago? A month? Longer? Sadly, you’re not the only one… So many of us put the needs of others before our own; whether that’s friends, family members, or even romantic partners.

But the truth is, you should try to make time; because when you date yourself you get the chance to do what you love, boost your self-confidence and gain more independence. You may even learn more about yourself too. So it’s important to try and fit in some ‘me time’ whenever you can.

That said, dating yourself can be hard. You need to be comfortable being alone which can be unnerving when you’re not used to it. Especially when there’s such a high expectation to find “the one”, and if you’re in a room surrounded by other couples, or groups of people, they may pity you for being by yourself.

It’s worth remembering, however, that being alone doesn’t necessarily mean you are lonely. It can be a great way to find out your own needs so that you’re more aware of what you need when you’re with others… So, take some time, date yourself, and find out what makes you… you, with these easy ideas.

7 Easy Ways to Date Yourself

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Spend Some Quality Time Alone

Dating is all about spending quality time with the other person, and, in this case, that person is you. So make sure to set some time aside to enjoy your own company. Sure, you can still go on some group dates with your friends and family, but you should also schedule some time for yourself. Whether that’s time spent reading a chapter of your favourite book, pampering yourself, or getting outside. Take some time out and do whatever you’d like to do.

Get To Know Yourself

Relationships are about getting to know the person, their hobbies, their likes and dislikes, what their values are, and more. So it’s important to apply this to yourself as well. Maybe there’s an old hobby you’d like to revisit, or a new one you’ve always wanted to try now is the time. Even if you think you know yourself pretty well you may even discover new passions.

Of course, hobbies aren’t the only way you can get to know yourself better. Many couples start off by asking questions and listening to each other, now that doesn’t mean having a conversation with yourself (unless you want to?), but by doing things like journaling or meditation, which can be great ways to learn about yourself.

Treat Yourself To Something Nice

There are so many ways you can treat yourself and many of them don’t have to cost a lot either. You could buy yourself flowers or chocolates, have a pamper evening or at-home spa day. Or even a movie night in, complete with comfy PJs and your favourite snacks. Just do whatever makes you feel good. For me, I love a long relaxing bubble bath.

Take Yourself Out On A Date

Perhaps there’s a new movie that only you want to see or a new activity you’ve been waiting to try out? Don’t be afraid to go to places that might be considered popular “date spots.” If you want to treat yourself to dinner and a movie, then do it. Go wherever you want on your dates as long as it’s somewhere that brings you joy. Coffee drinker? Why not drink in as a nice change?

If you are worried about being seen by yourself, why not go somewhere new you’ve never been? You’re less likely to see people you know and it saves any unnecessary embarrassment if they comment on you being by yourself. Not that you should feel embarrassed! There is nothing wrong with spending time by yourself. It just takes practice.

Cook Yourself A Nice Meal

Couples often cook for each other, so why not take the time to cook something nice for yourself too? Whether that’s your favourite meal or a nice recipe you’ve been dying to try out. You could even set the scene with some candles, a glass of your favourite and maybe even finish off with a pamper session. Whatever you fancy… Not a cook? Treat yourself to your favourite takeaway instead.

Dress For Yourself On Your Date

Whether you love to dress up or prefer a more casual style, it doesn’t matter, what matters is wearing something you feel comfortable in and that makes you feel good. You could even look at investing in some new clothes or lingerie as an added treat.

Practice Self Gratitude

Make yourself a priority by building your own self care routine to fulfil your mental, physical, and
emotional needs. Whether that includes daily journaling, positive affirmations, or just getting a good nights sleep. Do whatever you need to make you feel good about yourself.

What other ways could you date yourself? Please share your ideas in the comments.